Did you know that the first time I was gonna enter a stage, I felt sick for two weeks before the actual date of action? Did you know I felt even more sick being up there, so that I never wanted to do it again? And did you know, that I decided to do it anyways, despite my fear? Let’s just say I didn’t like having stage fright and I knew there would be two ways to get rid of it: 1. Never do anything in front of people, or 2. BEAT IT. Being a musician, the audience is kind of a big deal, so you might guess what I did.
I know it sounds like a piece of cake, putting it like this, but it really isn’t. Trust me, I’m aware of that. But I happen to believe that if you only have faith you can move mountains, and if you have a great deal of willpower you could overcome any fear you’d like! Actually, that’s where I started: setting my attitude. Then what? I’ll tell ya!
In my case, I’d be most likely to appear on stage while singing, playing the piano or doing an oral presentation in school. Every time I got the chance to perform, I took it. It’s no secret that the more you do something, the better you get at it. This goes with stage performances as well, and I was willing to believe that if I only did it many times, eventually the fear would go away.
It’s clever to start a little earlier on the road if your insecure, though. To me, it was much easier to talk or sing in front of people if the crowd wasn’t too big and if I had somebody with me. Thereby, I started with group presentations, choirs and bands. Then, when I’d feel safe in these situations, I would perform in even smaller groups until I’d be ready to stand on my own two feet. It is important to remember that while trying something new that includes leaving your comfort zone, it will be scary, but if you want to develop you must do things that scares you as well. But the fine part is that once you’ve developed, it won’t be scary any longer!
After having been on stage a few times, I started noticing certain “side effects”. Usually my voice would start trembling and so would my hands, I would begin sweating, my cheeks would get red (although actually my entire face) and ultimately the anxiety over what I have already mentioned would make me forget the lyrics or what I had planned to say. These five things combined would be the worst scenario imaginable. If I wouldn’t have to worry about any of this it would have been perfect… Do you know what? It’s all about the preparations!
Are your hands shaking? Move them! Gesticulate! If you’re not comfortable with that, then use a lectern or a table where you could put your hands! Your voice trembling? Use your stomach! All singers know how important it is to be in touch with your stomach while singing – the same goes while talking! You’re face turning red? – Hello? MAKE-UP! (It’s true – I applied a skin colored powder every time I was gonna perform, because I knew that if the audience wouldn’t think of my red cheeks, nor would I!) Blackout? Try memorizing the text or the lyrics until you could tell it in your sleep, otherwise use key words and main points!
Of course, misfortunes could happen no matter how well prepared you are. However, if the performance didn’t go the way you wanted, don’t see it as a defeat – see it as a healthy experience which you can learn from. Next time you’ll do it differently, simple as that!
A friend of mine began with holding a presentation in front of one person only. First, they would be sitting, then they would both be standing up and lastly she would be standing and the other person would be sitting. It could also be a good idea to practice with people you already know, such as friends or family members. It’s nice to know the audience won’t judge you. Besides, it’s also
So, what did I say really? Well, I thought I’d might as well sum up. These are my tips:
- Set the right attitude. You can do it and you want to!
- Start where you’re comfortable and carefully move away from your comfort zone. Take baby steps if you may! What matters is that your moving forward!
- Be prepared and be so a long time in advance. Don’t write your speech the night before it’s supposed to be held, write it a week before.
- Don’t let a bad performance bring you down. Analyze it and learn from it so that you can do better next time.
- Get support! Use your friends, family or somebody else what your comfortable with. Share your goals with them and ask them to help you through this.
Now, I’m not saying this is what You need to do to get rid of stage fright (perhaps it’s not even a problem for you), but it worked for me and if you’re dreaming about overcoming your stage fright and are willing to try these tips, I’d say: What’s stopping you? Either it will help or it won’t, no matter what you haven’t lost a thing. Right? I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you, Beautiful! ♥︎